It is believed that the sense of life of every man is to develop successful carrier, create the family and support his children. Any deviation from this pattern is viewed as something strange and improper. However, the men of the modern world tend to refuse from these universal values and dive in books, science and explorations refusing from the possibility to have healthy relations.
Academics, writers and talented programmers attract the women’s attention though it seems that they do not need it. In fact, some of these men consider themselves to be losers in relations and have the fear of not only relations but even of a simple approaching a woman. If you feel that there is a strong possibility that you are among the noble army of bookworms, it is high time to change your status or the books will remain your partners in bed for the rest of your life.
First of all, define the reasons of your bookwormish behavior. May be it was the original lack of good physical abilities which made you turn to intellectual sphere and stay in this league for a long time. May be it was an unhappy first experience of relations which has lowered your self-esteem and decreased your confidence, and now you are trying to hide behind some huge scientific experiment from another bitter lesson.
One thing you should understand is whatever the reasons are, they all remained in the past and nothing prevents you from becoming a new person with new experience.
Start with loving yourself. This advice sounds common, but it is effective nevertheless. Nobody will love you if you do not love and accept yourself with all your defects, peculiarities and imperfection.
The second step is to start changing. You will not become another person but you can improve your appearance or gain more confidence. Your aim is to produce a good first impression. But you will not produce any impression at all if you sit in your book fortress, so visit the outside world from time to time even if you feel uncomfortable in the human society.
Then, take the next step – try to become th4e center of attention. I am sure some of your knowledge can present much interest to the audience if you put it in the entertaining manner. To change the reputation of a bookworm is not easy but with some effort you can use your botanist style for your benefit. All in all, Mark Zuckerberg and Harry Potter have won hundreds of women’s hearts wearing glasses and not playing machos.